Children change everything. If you don’t already know that then you probably don’t have children. Women who have had a hobby for years will find themselves giving it up because of the children. There just doesn’t seem to be enough time to do things for the children and things for ourselves anymore.[ad]
However, although the schedules might seem hectic and the time might seem fleeting, it is important that you find time for yourself amidst all the chaos. A hobby is a great way to relieve stress in your life and help you refocus on the things that are most important to you.
Having a hobby will also give you the chance to build a support network. It is likely that you will be able to find others that also enjoy the same hobby. By meeting together on a regular basis, you will build friendships and bonds that can help you through times ahead.
If you have a hobby that you have given up or if you just want to start taking time for yourself, then here are a few tips to get you on the right path.
1. Give yourself one day each month to focus on your hobby. Plan to attend a lecture, event or even a conference that is centered on your hobby. If you don’t feel comfortable doing a whole day once a month then make it a few hours – but it’s still a good idea to get away for a whole day at least once or twice a year.
2. If you are limited in space or resources, then find a hobby that doesn’t require much of either. If you like to garden then join a gardening club. Often the members will be thrilled to share their extra plants with other members (particularly new members). If you like to read then consider a book club. You can check out the books from the library and not have to invest any of your own income. There are usually a number of different groups and organizations that are always eager to find new members.
3. Include your family some of the time if you just don’t feel good about being away (or if you have more than one hobby). It is not just a chance to break out of the normal routine, but it is also a chance to bond as a family (try out letterboxing, square dancing, or other group activities).
Taking up a new hobby (or renewing an interest in a previous hobby) does not mean that you are abandoning your family. It means that you are making yourself the best you that you can be, so that you can be MORE for your family in the long run.
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